What is this Crazy Thing?
I have always been of the mind that soulmates are born. There is that one person who just fits with you and you with them. However, I’m not so sure now and wonder, as I read a certain book, that soulmates are made. It’s the years of being together, working out the bad and enjoying the good that brings two people so close to each other that they consider themselves soulmates; living a complete life with someone who was always meant to be, but with work.
It takes work for anything worthwhile to be of value. So, a relationship too, needs such effort. Perhaps the years I’ve spent waiting for the “one” to appear was for naught? It’s a definite possibility. But, there are also other factors, which I’ll sort of equate to my current journey of purchasing a home.
I have spent months (much less than most) looking for a place to buy. I went through several choices and the first few that I did like were barred from me. I couldn’t get them and I felt depressed each time I failed. Right now, I have found one that meets very nearly all of my desires and am in the contract process. We are still far away from closing so things can go either way and I pray this post does not jinx my efforts.
How does this relate to a relationship? It was the failed experiences with the other units that made me truly appreciate this one I’m working to get. To see the qualities of the other units and appreciate what this one has. Waiting, or failing, seems to be what I needed to do as the pieces appear to be falling into place now.
Perhaps, as I become more social and do activities that lead me outdoors away from my computer, I’ll find myself exactly where I want to be relationship-wise.
I believe it takes a lot of work, but also a bit of luck.
your lead-in about soul mates made me think of (500) Days of Summer. Did you see that flick? Yeah, I don’t know what I think about soulmates.. I think they do exist. I think each person has multiple chances – there exists more than one soulmate per person.. perhaps hundreds.. but meeting just one of them may never happen.. or may happen too late, or happen more than once. good luck! i’ve given up on relationships until i complete the honolulu marathon at least once!
September 16, 2009 at 11:04 pmAlso, best of luck with obtaining a new home you enjoy!
I didn’t see that movie yet, but the “soulmates are born” bit is also visited upon in the movie What Dreams May Come. If you haven’t seen it, I recommend renting! Very visually entrancing.
While you may have given up, you should remain open! You never know what will come along while you’re working towards that marathon goal.
And thanks! Tomorrow, possession of the place will be mine. Also, I’m broke. hahah
September 17, 2009 at 9:22 am